Happy new week, people! It’s the last day of August, can you imagine? Just yesterday, we were saying happy new year and gearing up for 2020. How time flies!
Anyways, let’s get into today’s topic lest I digress…
Nowadays, most people, myself included, preach positivity. “Be positive”, “Stay positive”, “Don’t accept negativity into your life” is all you see in every inspirational post. When you see something again and again, it is normal to pick it up and start believing in it. Now, this isn’t a bad thing. What isn’t the best of things is when you become so encompassed in your positivity, that you are unable to face reality and pretend that it is non-existent.
Hard lessons learnt…
This happened to me once before, and it taught me a great lesson.
In my case, someone close to me was sick. They had been sick for a few years, but on the most part, didn’t look or act it. In my head, they were fine, though I knew that they weren’t 100% ok. I continued to believe that they were fine to the point of actually forgetting that they weren’t.
A few years later, their health started to deteriorate and they were in and out of the hospital. I was worried, yes, but kept telling myself that they would be ok and that every hospital visit would be the last, so everything would go back to normal sooner than later.
I failed to actually see what was actually happening. This person was literally dying right before my eyes, and I refused to acknowledge it. A part of me thought of the prospect of them passing, but I always brushed it off, as I believed that acknowledging it would mean that it would happen.
I continued to be blinded by my positivity up until said individual passed away. When I was informed, I was in shock. I didn’t know that the day would come. In my head, they were getting better. In reality, they weren’t.
What shocked me is that everyone around me wasn’t exactly in shock, as they knew that the person was in their final days…
Till date, it still shocks me. I cannot believe that I was truly blinded by my positivity. Whenever I think back to when the person was alive, I always wish I had done more. I wish I had taken more videos of us together. I wish I had spent more time with them. I wish I had talked to them about the prospect of dying, no matter how morbid it would have been. I wish, I wish, I wish.
The skewed lens…
This situation taught me a ton of lessons about being blinded by positivity. I learnt that life cannot be truly seen through a lens. It can only be seen through your own two eyes. It is only these pair of eyes that will give you a real sense of what is happening around the world, and it is your brain that will give you options on what to do about what you see.
Don’t look at life from a positive or negative perspective. If you look at it from a positive perspective, things will be too positive, and if you look at it from a negative perspective, things will be too negative. This goes hand in hand with the saying “too much of anything is not good.”
What I encourage you to do is to look at life from a neutral perspective, but with a positive mindset. This basically means that what you see may not be the best, but the way you process it will make the situation better.
For example, if I did this when the person was still alive, I would’ve clearly seen that the end was near, but my positive perspective would’ve let me make the most of their last days. You understand what I’m saying?
Living with this principle of looking at things from a clear and neutral perspective but with a positive mindset has changed my life for the better. I see things just as they are, but handle them in the best way I can.
At the end of the day, I must say that it’s unfortunate that I didn’t have this mindset before the person passed away. On the other hand, I don’t regret things going the way they did, because without that, I wouldn’t have known what I know now. I also wouldn’t have been able to share it with you.
I hope that you’ve learnt something new from this blog post, and remember that there is room for change. It may be hard at first, but it gets easier with time and will be worth it in the end…
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